Many parents do not simply adopt one child and stop there. Like countless other parents, they want to have several children and grow their families. Some parents use adoption to do so and choose to adopt more than once.
For parents looking to adopt a second time, there are many things to remember and consider before making a second contact with an adoption agency.
Think of the Previous Experience
Adopting the first time might be a bit frightening and confusing, especially for parents who are not familiar with the process in any way. When adopting a second time, think back on the experience. Was it smooth? What could have changed? Did you think the adoption agency helped out as well as it could have?
If you had a good experience with your first adoption, there is probably little reason to look for another adoption agency. If you have doubts, call around and schedule meetings with other adoption agency counselors, or bring up your concerns to your previous agency.
Examine Your Current Situation
When you decided to adopt the first time, you naturally looked at your finances, your schedule, and your mental and emotional situation. For some parents, the idea of having another child in the house is very appealing, but they are drained and have their hands already full with one or two children.
As a parent, you will need to determine if you are ready financially, mentally, and emotionally for another child. Having two or more kids is a unique experience, but simply having more people in the house might cause difficulties and stress. Sit with your spouse or partner and make sure adoption is what you really want and that your family, and everyone in it, is ready for another member.
Talk With Your Child
If you plan on bringing another child into your family, through adoption or not, you should discuss the matter with your current children. It is important to let them know that things will be changing and they will be gaining a sibling.
Also, give your child some involvement in the adoption process. Help them get the new room ready, have them accompany you with some of the adoption meetings, and listen to whatever input they may have. You might not enact all of their ideas, but having your child be an active part of the adoption will help them develop an early bond with their sibling before they are even brought home.
Adoption the second time around is generally easier since parents have done it before and know what to expect. This time, however, you already have a child who went through the adoption process, and now they can help welcome a new family member into your home.